In reality , not just a group of people with whom I travel regularly and have never been a problem . Here's how to keep it cool with my perfect vacation Friends ( PHF) .
1 . Freedom. Everyone is free to do what they want . My PHF not wait until someone offers an activity to drag slowly standing behind a leader. You could say : " ? Well, go to the beach , you want to go " and you hear " cool, I am" and another " I prefer to read a book , enjoy " Both are perfectly acceptable answers. . implicitly, all tied around dinner, but if you have a day trip and will not do lunch , which is good. it's my birthday , this is one of them , everyone can spend what they want.
2 . Initiative. This is the counterpart of freedom. You are free to skip lunch , but do not expect anyone to make their food. PHF , do not put in place a program of cleaning and cooking , there are girls that breakfast while the kids clean the house and children playing in the garden (yes, even with children PHF ) function .
3 . Otherwise, the planning. If you are not blessed with PHF , you need a plan . Horrible holiday friends BF suggested lunch partner handles and a pair of diner . They cook but I would stay with the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, cleaning the kitchen, and usually go after them as you would with children , which was frustrating and annoying just adults. With this kind of people make a clear timetable , clean , cooking, and other regulations need to specify . Unfortunately , the friend of BF , which included " thank you not to pee in the flower bed if you are drunk , the room is below and is not based on how your goal. " Yes, we need a plan for that too.
4. Money money . PHF just talking about money. We all contribute to what we consume and the only thing that separates us is the price of the rental. Then a friend and I are driving fill the tank while the other pays tolls and buy groceries next . This works because I 'd rather pay a little more than having to write and follow all expenses ( like me, my friends do not approach the budget), and because none of us would dare to live the expense of others . PHF , we know that if you paid a little too much and we will not let you wipe your card for one day to make up for it . If you do not trust your friends to be as honest with their spending, as we saw split the bill and forget about the tip or shrimp cocktails and had a salad and water and say " we divided into two " , set some ground rules before leaving. Get an estimate of expenses (rent , gas , food, fun ) , and can even be ordered in advance their part to ensure solvency . If costs are higher than normal , say you want to go bungee jumping , one day, do not book for a group of 8 and then charge at all , ask first you want to do and are willing to pay more for it .
Now that we live in a remote location and the nearest supermarket is 20 miles away , we ask guests to bring food and drinks you need. He says if you do not like my cooking , you can make your own , or have their specific food allergies, and not arriving empty "think ( that ) would buy food on arrival " after hands 9 hour drive .
5. Holiday at the lowest budget. My PHF always ensure that we have a fun time, but not break the bank. They are happy cook most meals at home and pay for the experience or traveling to new places instead. We have a PHF makes half the money than others , but we still expect a journey that will easily. I said no to a festival with other friends because I know they spend a lot in a week than I do for a motorcycle trip months and we do not have much. We ate at the restaurant three times a day, coffee cream and ice and cocktails to fill the rest of the time and just visit our destiny. Do your best to make the trip affordable for the lowest budget, and then if you want to splurge one night rendezvous with your partner or two friends who enjoy it , do not force the person to accompany burst. They feel bad , will not appreciate , both people lose .
6. This is real life . This is perhaps the first time you see your friends outside of the university / bar / work / social occasion for more than two hours. You can not know in advance that Mary raucous , Tom showers for 45 minutes and Bob gets cranky not eating at 12:00. We all have default values and can not put our best smile all day. According weekend may be a good idea before embarking on a trip of a week.
7. Your friends are not my friends. BF friends went to see him , not me. He had met several times , but I think we would be friends without BF . Even my FSP other halves that are impressive are always " the other half of PHF " and sometimes I like to take the initiative and let our original itself to talk about what we are talking about when they are not there group (spoiler alert ILS ) . When BF business , I try to disappear for a few hours so they can talk about the past , family gossip , nor me. Or it might be a little frustrated that I hung all the time and I miss listening to conversations about their adolescence.
8. Your children are yours. I'm always happy to play with the children in my PHF when they are close , because they are rarely in a bad mood , and very independent when he wants to play with them. Otherwise, one of their two parents will take the child to another room , read a story or have a little quiet , allowing the other parent and the rest of the group to continue to enjoy the holidays . With friend of BF , the guy ruining everyone day by being around and complain that his mother did not want to play with him . It may be a good time relaxing on the television standards and let the kids be kids in your own while enjoying your time in adults, but in any case , do not spoil the holidays around the world to enable to anger continues in the lounge.
9 . It also applies to the family. The fact that your parents and your new love invites you to share a holiday does not mean that your mom cook and clean up after yourself , or have to pay for everything. Allow time for each single couple or family group to get a break . If the parent wants to see the war museum , but instead of going to the flea market , agreeing to meet in three hours instead of dragging the whole group around the love of a person.
10 . Know when to say goodbye. Even with PHF , I know that after a few days , it's time for everyone to return to normal and separate lives. A couple of friends came to our house BF distance , knowing that it was a bad way to earth , no spare wheel. We warned to drive slowly and did not listen . When we thought we were gone , called from 10 miles away as the tire exploded , and instead of calling a mechanic, he called , we had a look around for tools, we pay our car for a tire parts , do not think for filling the tank or let us know that not arrive in time for dinner, and we spent a night after the room cleaning and linen . It took longer to get back to us instead of driving to a nearby mechanic . Your friends are there to help you when there is no alternative , if not , try to be independent and function on their own . Especially if you have been relying on them for the last week.
1 . Freedom. Everyone is free to do what they want . My PHF not wait until someone offers an activity to drag slowly standing behind a leader. You could say : " ? Well, go to the beach , you want to go " and you hear " cool, I am" and another " I prefer to read a book , enjoy " Both are perfectly acceptable answers. . implicitly, all tied around dinner, but if you have a day trip and will not do lunch , which is good. it's my birthday , this is one of them , everyone can spend what they want.
2 . Initiative. This is the counterpart of freedom. You are free to skip lunch , but do not expect anyone to make their food. PHF , do not put in place a program of cleaning and cooking , there are girls that breakfast while the kids clean the house and children playing in the garden (yes, even with children PHF ) function .
3 . Otherwise, the planning. If you are not blessed with PHF , you need a plan . Horrible holiday friends BF suggested lunch partner handles and a pair of diner . They cook but I would stay with the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, cleaning the kitchen, and usually go after them as you would with children , which was frustrating and annoying just adults. With this kind of people make a clear timetable , clean , cooking, and other regulations need to specify . Unfortunately , the friend of BF , which included " thank you not to pee in the flower bed if you are drunk , the room is below and is not based on how your goal. " Yes, we need a plan for that too.
4. Money money . PHF just talking about money. We all contribute to what we consume and the only thing that separates us is the price of the rental. Then a friend and I are driving fill the tank while the other pays tolls and buy groceries next . This works because I 'd rather pay a little more than having to write and follow all expenses ( like me, my friends do not approach the budget), and because none of us would dare to live the expense of others . PHF , we know that if you paid a little too much and we will not let you wipe your card for one day to make up for it . If you do not trust your friends to be as honest with their spending, as we saw split the bill and forget about the tip or shrimp cocktails and had a salad and water and say " we divided into two " , set some ground rules before leaving. Get an estimate of expenses (rent , gas , food, fun ) , and can even be ordered in advance their part to ensure solvency . If costs are higher than normal , say you want to go bungee jumping , one day, do not book for a group of 8 and then charge at all , ask first you want to do and are willing to pay more for it .
Now that we live in a remote location and the nearest supermarket is 20 miles away , we ask guests to bring food and drinks you need. He says if you do not like my cooking , you can make your own , or have their specific food allergies, and not arriving empty "think ( that ) would buy food on arrival " after hands 9 hour drive .
5. Holiday at the lowest budget. My PHF always ensure that we have a fun time, but not break the bank. They are happy cook most meals at home and pay for the experience or traveling to new places instead. We have a PHF makes half the money than others , but we still expect a journey that will easily. I said no to a festival with other friends because I know they spend a lot in a week than I do for a motorcycle trip months and we do not have much. We ate at the restaurant three times a day, coffee cream and ice and cocktails to fill the rest of the time and just visit our destiny. Do your best to make the trip affordable for the lowest budget, and then if you want to splurge one night rendezvous with your partner or two friends who enjoy it , do not force the person to accompany burst. They feel bad , will not appreciate , both people lose .
6. This is real life . This is perhaps the first time you see your friends outside of the university / bar / work / social occasion for more than two hours. You can not know in advance that Mary raucous , Tom showers for 45 minutes and Bob gets cranky not eating at 12:00. We all have default values and can not put our best smile all day. According weekend may be a good idea before embarking on a trip of a week.
7. Your friends are not my friends. BF friends went to see him , not me. He had met several times , but I think we would be friends without BF . Even my FSP other halves that are impressive are always " the other half of PHF " and sometimes I like to take the initiative and let our original itself to talk about what we are talking about when they are not there group (spoiler alert ILS ) . When BF business , I try to disappear for a few hours so they can talk about the past , family gossip , nor me. Or it might be a little frustrated that I hung all the time and I miss listening to conversations about their adolescence.
8. Your children are yours. I'm always happy to play with the children in my PHF when they are close , because they are rarely in a bad mood , and very independent when he wants to play with them. Otherwise, one of their two parents will take the child to another room , read a story or have a little quiet , allowing the other parent and the rest of the group to continue to enjoy the holidays . With friend of BF , the guy ruining everyone day by being around and complain that his mother did not want to play with him . It may be a good time relaxing on the television standards and let the kids be kids in your own while enjoying your time in adults, but in any case , do not spoil the holidays around the world to enable to anger continues in the lounge.
9 . It also applies to the family. The fact that your parents and your new love invites you to share a holiday does not mean that your mom cook and clean up after yourself , or have to pay for everything. Allow time for each single couple or family group to get a break . If the parent wants to see the war museum , but instead of going to the flea market , agreeing to meet in three hours instead of dragging the whole group around the love of a person.
10 . Know when to say goodbye. Even with PHF , I know that after a few days , it's time for everyone to return to normal and separate lives. A couple of friends came to our house BF distance , knowing that it was a bad way to earth , no spare wheel. We warned to drive slowly and did not listen . When we thought we were gone , called from 10 miles away as the tire exploded , and instead of calling a mechanic, he called , we had a look around for tools, we pay our car for a tire parts , do not think for filling the tank or let us know that not arrive in time for dinner, and we spent a night after the room cleaning and linen . It took longer to get back to us instead of driving to a nearby mechanic . Your friends are there to help you when there is no alternative , if not , try to be independent and function on their own . Especially if you have been relying on them for the last week.
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